pgsql: Use an shmem_exit callback to remove backend from PMChildFlags o

Use an shmem_exit callback to remove backend from PMChildFlags on exit

This seems nicer than having to duplicate the logic between
InitProcess() and ProcKill() for which child processes have a
PMChildFlags slot.

Move the MarkPostmasterChildActive() call earlier in InitProcess(),
out of the section protected by the spinlock.

Reviewed-by: Andres Freund <andres(at)anarazel(dot)de>
Discussion: https://www.postgresql.org/message-id/a102f15f-eac4-4ff2-af02-f9ff209ec66f@iki.fi

Branch
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master

Details
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https://git.postgresql.org/pg/commitdiff/2bbc261ddbdfee2def5d14ee9fcc09c70bdf84e6

Modified Files
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src/backend/storage/ipc/pmsignal.c | 17 +++++++++++++----
src/backend/storage/lmgr/proc.c | 38 +++++++++++++-------------------------
src/include/storage/pmsignal.h | 3 +--
3 files changed, 27 insertions(+), 31 deletions(-)