pgsql: Use our own getopt() on OpenBSD.

Use our own getopt() on OpenBSD.

Recent OpenBSD (at least 5.9 and up) has a version of getopt(3)
that will not cope with the "-:" spec we use to accept double-dash
options in postgres.c and postmaster.c. Admittedly, that's a hack
because POSIX only requires getopt() to allow alphanumeric option
characters. I have no desire to find another way, however, so
let's just do what we were already doing on Solaris: force use
of our own src/port/getopt.c implementation.

In passing, improve some of the comments around said implementation.

Per buildfarm and local testing. Back-patch to all supported branches.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/30197.1547835700@sss.pgh.pa.us

Branch
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REL_11_STABLE

Details
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https://git.postgresql.org/pg/commitdiff/e4ffa0dcb797d625d590ff25d232d1bbc991aa28

Modified Files
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configure | 6 +++---
configure.in | 6 +++---
src/include/pg_getopt.h | 10 ++++++++++
src/port/getopt.c | 11 +++++------
4 files changed, 21 insertions(+), 12 deletions(-)