pgsql: Fix data loss at inplace update after heap_update().

Fix data loss at inplace update after heap_update().

As previously-added tests demonstrated, heap_inplace_update() could
instead update an unrelated tuple of the same catalog. It could lose
the update. Losing relhasindex=t was a source of index corruption.
Inplace-updating commands like VACUUM will now wait for heap_update()
commands like GRANT TABLE and GRANT DATABASE. That isn't ideal, but a
long-running GRANT already hurts VACUUM progress more just by keeping an
XID running. The VACUUM will behave like a DELETE or UPDATE waiting for
the uncommitted change.

For implementation details, start at the systable_inplace_update_begin()
header comment and README.tuplock. Back-patch to v12 (all supported
versions). In back branches, retain a deprecated heap_inplace_update(),
for extensions.

Reported by Smolkin Grigory. Reviewed by Nitin Motiani, (in earlier
versions) Heikki Linnakangas, and (in earlier versions) Alexander
Lakhin.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/CAMp+ueZQz3yDk7qg42hk6-9gxniYbp-=bG2mgqecErqR5gGGOA@mail.gmail.com

Branch
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REL_14_STABLE

Details
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https://git.postgresql.org/pg/commitdiff/82c2d9e0220666ff698c226db41cb119ed4bfa44

Modified Files
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src/backend/access/heap/README.tuplock | 11 +
src/backend/access/heap/heapam.c | 252 +++++++++++++++++++--
src/backend/access/index/genam.c | 137 +++++++++++
src/backend/catalog/index.c | 38 +---
src/backend/catalog/toasting.c | 31 ++-
src/backend/commands/dbcommands.c | 34 +--
src/backend/commands/vacuum.c | 32 ++-
src/include/access/genam.h | 9 +
src/include/access/heapam.h | 7 +
.../isolation/expected/intra-grant-inplace-db.out | 10 +-
.../isolation/expected/intra-grant-inplace.out | 16 +-
.../isolation/specs/intra-grant-inplace-db.spec | 1 -
src/test/isolation/specs/intra-grant-inplace.spec | 4 +-
13 files changed, 486 insertions(+), 96 deletions(-)